Ruth is not your ideal woman.
She was a Moabite. Moabites were descendants of Lot from an incestuous relationship with his oldest daughter.
Ruth was looked down upon because she was a woman (women were once considered a property, a little higher than cows in their society)
She’s a widow.
She remained faithful to her mother-in-law, Naomi. Braving the nasty things people said about her and the cruel treatment she received, she went out to glean the barley fields of her late husband’s kin Boaz.
Boaz heard of Ruth’s goodness from his people.
Boaz saw how Ruth cared for her mother-in-law.
Boaz had known Ruth’s loyalty, diligence, determination, and perseverance.
Naomi advised Ruth to dress up and sleep at Boaz’s feet.
The rest as they say is history.
7 Things We Can All Learn From Ruth:
1. Ruth’s priority was not to wait for someone to redeem her after her husband died leaving her with no children. Sort out your priorities. Don’t wait for other people—especially for men to validate your existence.
Don’t expect others to fill your empty cup. They might just be as empty as you are and you’ll end up draining each other.
2. Loyalty and selflessness are always rewarded. She cared for Naomi and never left her side which eventually led her to Boaz.
3. Be confident with who you are. Ruth never let rumors and gossips stop her from going out there and getting what she needs. She ignored the whispers. She knew she’s being judged because she didn’t fit in the society’s standard. She had more important things to think about; she had no time for petty things and petty people.
4. Be diligent, persevering, and determined. Ruth worked harder than the others, which Boaz noticed.
5. Be a woman of character. Boaz told Ruth: “All my townspeople know you for a worthy woman.” What can be more flattering than that?
You can’t control your reputation, because everyone’s entitled to their own opinion.
You can’t control people’s impression of you as it is more of how they view things in life than it is about you. But, you have full and total control of your character.
Be someone your Boaz can be proud of. Be someone you yourself can be proud of.
Carry yourself with dignity.
6. Stop chasing people. Don’t be desperate. Boaz praised Ruth’s loyalty saying, “You have not gone after a younger man, whether rich or poor.”
7. Follow the advice of the wise. Ruth knew she can trust Naomi so she followed her advice. Which turned out to be an effective one as Boaz married her after that.
Ruth may not be every man’s fantasy girl, but she’s every man’s ideal wife judging by her character.
The society might have treated her like trash, but her character shined so brightly that a man of integrity like Boaz saw what a gem she was.
Don’t just sit there and wait around for your Boaz. Ruth never did.
She lived a life of service and the Lord rewarded her.
For He is faithful, and His timing is perfect.
I honestly believe that when we go through things, God is truly the ONLY one who can really help. It seems like it would be so much easier and less painful for somebody to give us the answers, fix it, and take away the pain, but most of the time you’ll just become confused. Real change has to come from within. You have to get it, have to click with it inside, for it to really make a difference in your life.
*That being said here are 2 hints to point you in the right direction for lifting that load.
1. It’s About Your Relationship With God, Not The Religion.
Most of us desire some type of relationship, so we can do this, right? All the closeness and intimacy you desire from a boyfriend, husband, best friend, needs to be directed to God…. He should be the love of your life, the apple of your eye.
He is the one who will listen to you, no matter what. He thinks you’re the best and He is gonna teach you how to treat yourself. You deserve to be treated like awesome woman you are! He is the one you are going to come to for everything, for every single little decision. He will teach you how to encourage yourself and love yourself… and you won’t feel so heavy, like you’re in dark place… It can go away…. He can do that…He is able! He can teach you how to go through all the ups and downs of life and not let it take over and make you feel stuck. He’ll make you lighter and you’ll have peace in your heart.
Just remember this requires a commitment. Don’t be a committaphobe! You have to designate time to your relationship with God daily. Because just like any other relationship, you have to spend time with a person in order to get to know them.
2. Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude, Change Your Attitude!
Now we’re getting to the meat of it. GRATITUDE is SO SUPER important. Actually gratitude is a part of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Yep, the psychologists actually use this for treatment. Gratitude helps with resilience, perception, positive outlooks, depression, anxiety, and changing negative thinking habits… you name it! Yes, It’s awesome! BUT we’re taking it one step further, because we are adding Jesus to the mix…after all the WORD said it first!
Sooooo, first things first, pray…. everyday…. but focus this prayer on telling Him what you are grateful and thankful for…go overboard…don’t be stingy! There are tons of things to give thanks for…. bills got paid. Check. Wow it’s gorgeous out today. Check. Got a moment to myself. Check. You get the picture. Keep brainstorming… you are praising Him and teaching yourself to change your perception…
Find a beautiful spot nearby if you can! This will help you to build up and stir up your appreciation vibes! Say, out loud or write down what you’re grateful for.
Make the time to do this daily. Don’t have the time? You’ll make it, if this change is important to you. You’ll find the time to prioritize what is important to you. There is a way.
Thank God for every single little thing. Have a notebook on hand with you to write interesting things or nice things that pop up in your head, or just write down what you are grateful for….
Start with this… Discipline yourself to do this almost every day…Allow yourself to zone out… This is how you start to change any negative perceptions that the enemy is trying to put on you.
Be determined. Commit to this. Commit to God and a change will come over you, but most importantly… you will start to feel His presence and realize that He has never left your side!
2 Timothy 1:7 – God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Stop, close your eyes, and think about something you’ve been wanting to do for a while now. Now ask yourself … “what’s standing in the way of it”. Sometimes fear is the only thing standing in the way of our blessings!
Before starting this blog, I was stuck at a job I hated. I wanted to leave, I dreamed of leaving, but fear kept me there. “What if I leave and regret it?”, “What if I fail?”. And to be honest, I was quite comfortable there. “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”… right? WRONG! It took them letting me go, for me to finally pursue some of the things God placed in my heart.
Do you get stressed at just the thought of what the future holds? If so, It’s time to stop listening to your fears and start speaking your blessings into existence!
Here’s 4 Ways to Start Overcoming Fear, Right Now
Before you can move beyond your fear, you have to get to the root of your fear. What do you stand to gain by trying? Now ask yourself what will you gain by not trying at all?
Read Your Bible
I don’t know about you but reading my bible sure puts things in perspective for me. Subscribing to daily devotionals can be great help as well. Sometimes a fear of being alone is a sign of placing too much of your love in him and not enough in Him.
Keep A Journal
Jotting down your fears on paper is important, because trying to think of them through doesn’t always work. You get caught in endless loops of negativity that only lead you further away from a solution, making your life miserable.
There’s nothing like the calmness that comes over me after I’ve just prayed. Before you talk to anyone else about your fears, talk to the one who can actually do something about it. But don’t just talk, Listen! If you listen to God’s voice in everything you do, you won’t have time to listen to fear!
Are you ready to quit allowing fear to control your life? By reading this article, you’ve already taken the first step, and you’ve put the wheels in motion.
First, if you’re reading this and you feel like this post is for you—it is. God lead you here and that’s important, because we know you’re probably feeling something along the lines of: “How can He still love me after everything?” It’s possible. Trust that and trust Him.
Next, you may be wondering if God really has a plan for you and how it’ll all work out if you continue to stray. These are common questions, common feelings, and common mistakes. (more…)